if today answer...

that's an interesting question gp... and yet, i still have no answer. maybe later... after i think of something.

CUT YOUR HAIR BOYS

if today...

one of your friends passed, how would you describe their life? what kind of impact did they have on you? positive? negative? what would you say at their eugugoly?

i'm just curious as to what people would say about their friends. feel free to comment anonymously. and you can by putting a random name or, the obvious, clicking on the anonymous button. so do it.

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question...

is there a difference between living together and sleeping over your significant other's house every night? it's kinda like the same thing, right? just wondering...

exactly...

dee juss wrote what i really wanted to say. thanks for backing me up my friend. and thanks for inviting me to lunch. and with the thing with me and derrick... it's our choice to live the way we live. so please don't judge us til you've seen us in action. :-D

thoughts of a fellow cohabitor:

the catholic church's stance on cohabitation is a strong one: don't do it. one of the main reasons for this is because it promotes premarital sex. there are also studies showing that cohabitation before marriage leads to higher divorce rates. in fact, if two catholics who are living together want to get married and tell the priest that they are in fact living together, the priest will (most likely) tell them to separate. if they don't want to separate then they are to have a small private wedding with few guests, so as not to promote this type of behavior in the church.

some couples, however, live together for reasons that seem valid to most people. for example, some people choose to live together for convenience...others live together and actually are chaste people and stay that way. there are many that would argue against this, but you would never really know unless you've experienced it yourself. everyone's situation is different. in my present situtation, it was never thought that we would live together for a long time -- the situation was supposed to be temporary. things change and situations alter sometimes. growing up, i, too believed that living together before marriage was definitely wrong. and though this may sound weird or hypocritical, i still believe it to be wrong, though i am engaging in this act as well. it's kind of one of those things where you know you're doing something wrong but you do it anyways. does that make any sense? that sounds bad...but, david and i have talked about this so many times (which is why i'm not afraid to be publicly stating my views on this matter) and, though our situtation is different and we have our own reasons for why we do the things we do, we both agree with the church's position. this is why when we both make the move up north we will no longer be "cohabitating."

i don't judge those that live together before marriage, not only because i am one of those people, but because everyone has their own reasons and unique situations. and those reasons are between those two people, and need not be justified to the entire world. however, one thing's for sure...if two people choose to live together before marriage, they should both be conscious of and accept responsibility for any consequences that may arise from the situation.

thanks for listening!

http://www.americancatholic.org/Newsletters/CU/ac0603.asp

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I agree with GP. cuz i think thats how me and him live. by the second one..........oops............i mean thats i how i feel too.....not that i meant thats how me and him live at madrona..............wait a second.............what i am joking????.....hahahhaha

since you asked...

it's really up to the person regarding this whole cohabitation thingamajig. living in the same roof. same room. same bed. it's all good in the hood. but then you start to look at it from different points of views...

religious point.
big no no on cohabitation. bad idea because it takes away from having that special feeling after marriage where you and your partner FINALLY live together. some say it makes it "more" meaningful if you don't live together before marriage. whatever that means. and of course, there's always that risk of "fooling around". the temptations are there. blah blah blah. so that's a no no.

the in between point of view.
it's okay but don't do anything stupid. you can live with each other but don't "fool around". also, might be a problem when couples get in a fight. if you live together, you can't leave and go to YOUR place. cuz you are at your place. so with this view, it's okay as long as you don't do anything. you can work shtuff out kinda deal blah blah blah.

the i don't give a fudge-i-love-her/him point of view.
it's all good. open season baby. whatever happens happens. c'est la vie. you can fight. fool around. be merry. who cares. blah blah blah.

my choice?
i'm in the middle of the first second and third view. hahahaha. yes. i am.
so if this doesn't make any sense, then too bad. it's not supposed to. and i know that everyone will find some faults with these because i didn't stop to think what i wrote. i just wrote it at the spur of the moment. so go on and revise everything. peace out.

okay...okay...

...i haven't had the chance to write here, so here i go.
i've been semi-thinking about this topic that i am about to bring up, but not so much. i just want to know what everyone else thinks about it. i think GP mentioned it before in a previous blog, but i really don't remember.
so...i just want to know what everyone else thinks about a girlfriend and a boyfriend living with each other before marriage. growing up i thought it was totally wrong and just out of the question. i guess, or i know i thought this way because of my parents and the way i was brought up. but now, i know that living with a significant other is not a bad thing as long as, i guess, the couple keeps Christ in the center of their relationship. i mean, there's more than just that...um, keeping the relationship non sexual in any way...

i don't know...i just really want to hear what you guys think. okay suckas...work is inevitable.
peace.

DO it. come on. DO it.

YEA!!! Lets get this blog poppin again..............no more of this waiting around.............lets do this......

DO IT!!! DO IT!!!

question...

do we need to make a new blog?